Thursday, April 15, 2010

First Emom Meeting

First, I want to say thank you to Debbie who sent her good vibes and asked others to send theirs! Next, I want to apologize for taking so many days to post about our meeting. I honestly thought I'd be able to get this out much quicker, but after our meeting I've been deep in thought about it all.

The day started off well. We were to meet with E, our social worker, 30 minutes before the scheduled meet time to do a little prep. Our plan was to leave at 12:15 to give ourselves time to calm down and have a few sips of water to keep our throats from being dry :) E called at 11:45 or so to let us know that the meeting would be postponed because K, eMom's social worker, couldn't get in touch with her. K and/or E had promised to call and let us know if the meeting was going to happen but we weren't really expecting it wouldn't happen. Any way, we were understandably bummed and decided to go out any way and get some errands done. While we were in the store, E called and said K was able to reach eMom and asked if we could we still meet. Of course! We completed our purchases and boogied out of there to get to the restaurant.

K and eMom were at the restaurant when we arrived, E arrived about 15 minutes later because of traffic. eMom (M) was cute, nice, bubbly, and very friendly. We had a great conversation talking about ourselves, her children (2), and how she came to decide on adoption. She showed us photos of her kids and they are adorable. She was very happy talking about them. The conversation went really well and I don't think any of us felt too nervous but it was still pretty darn surreal to think that this little pregnant girl was going to make us parents - fingers crossed. I can't even imagine what it was like for her to think these two strangers were going to be parents to her baby. M has a good head on her shoulders and seemed to have given a lot of thought to her adoption plan. I could see the sadness in her eyes when she talked about being strong and holding on to her emotions once she's given birth. It choked me up; I just wanted to give her a hug. Before we knew it, our time was up. We all walked out together and Chris and I took a picture with M. I've been looking at it since last Friday trying to memorize M's face and smile because I don't know when we're going to see her again. Sorry to sound so mysterious. We found out that M wants less contact than we were anticipating, which makes us sad for the baby. I'll talk about that in a later post. After the photo and K and M left, we had a quick debrief with E. E let us know that we did a great job even without the prep. We're meeting with her today (5p) as a follow-up to Friday's meeting.

M is due in 19 days but could really go at any time. She has/had a doctor's appointment this week - I think, so hopefully we'll find out how she's doing. She was already 3 cm dilated on her last visit which was a few weeks ago. I haven't packed our diaper bag yet but I feel like I need to get it done ASAP! At this point, Chris and I are pretty much on edge, expecting a call saying that M is in the hospital. I've had trouble sleeping and weird dreams. I guess this is all par for the course.

How did you guys handle the anticipation?


Eva said...

Oh, that's soo exciting! I'm so happy for you. ((((hugs)))

Sweet Patience said...

Thanks for sharing the details. This is exciting!
You all will be parents really soon!